The divorce may not be your choice, but the terms of the divorce are your choice. This will be one of the most difficult times in your life. Divorce is horrible and awful, but that doesn’t mean you get to stick your head in the sand. It will be difficult to concentrate on anything beyond surviving. You need to schedule time to learn how this divorce will impact your life. Read books about divorce. Read blogs about divorce. Go see an attorney. This divorce is happening, how it happens is up to you.