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August 12, 2024

What is the Average Cost of Divorce in Oregon?

Divorce is emotionally taxing, often complicated, and expensive. If you're facing a divorce in Oregon, you're likely wondering, "What is the average cost of divorce in Oregon?" There are many factors to determine the cost of a divorce in Oregon. …

Matt Rose

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Post-Marital Agreement

July 17, 2024

Understanding Post-Marital Agreements in Oregon: What You Need to Know

Understanding post-marital agreements in Oregon can be overwhelming. You may be thinking, "What is a post-marital agreement and what are the reasons for a post-marital agreement in Oregon?” A post-marital agreement, sometimes referred to as a post-nuptial agreement, is a legal…

Julie Gentili

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Creative Ways To Pay Spousal Support In Oregon

Divorce Mediation

June 13, 2024

Creative Ways To Pay Spousal Support In Oregon

What creative options exist to pay spousal support in Oregon? There are many different ways to pay spousal support. Each has its pros and cons. Let’s dive in and determine the many creative options to pay spousal support in Oregon.…

Matt Rose

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Divorce Mediation

May 22, 2024

What Are The Benefits Of Divorce Mediation?

When it comes to assets in a divorce, the two biggest decisions are the house and the retirement. What do you do with the house in a divorce? I have some thoughts… So, what exactly is divorce mediation? Our first…

Matt Rose

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Divorce

May 16, 2024

What Is The Divorce Mediation Process?

Are you finding yourself in a situation where you need a divorce and researching your options? So, what is the process and how does mediation work in divorce? Divorce mediation takes the drama out of divorce by guiding parties to…

Matt Rose

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How Is Oregon Spousal Support Calculated

Divorce Spousal Support

April 29, 2024

How is Spousal Support Calculated in Oregon?

I cannot tell you how many times I hear clients say, “How is spousal support calculated in Oregon?” In Oregon, spousal support is a negotiation, not a calculation. Without a spousal support calculator, parties have no idea what is “typical”…

Julie Gentili

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Divorce

April 10, 2024

What to do with the House in Divorce

When it comes to assets in a divorce, the two biggest decisions are the house and the retirement. What do you do with the house in a divorce? I have some thoughts… The easiest option to deal with the house…

Julie Gentili

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Divorce

April 8, 2024

Is divorce 50/50 in Oregon?

My team fields the, “Is divorce 50/50 in Oregon” question at least twice a day. The answer is more complicated than a yes or a no. Let’s dive into if divorce is 50/50 in Oregon.Oregon is surrounded by Washington and…

Julie Gentili

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PreMarital Agreement

March 12, 2024

A Guide to Prenups in Oregon: For Your First and Forever Marriage

Congratulations on getting married! An Oregon mediated prenuptial agreement, or as we casually call them, prenups, helps you first marriage be your forever marriage.An Oregon mediated premarital agreement process opens-up a conversation about each party’s expectations, responsibilities, and goals for…

Julie Gentili

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Divorce

March 4, 2024

Divorce Mistakes

Divorce is difficult and draining. Once you make it through it, there are additional tasks you should complete to protect yourself. Unfortunately, most folks are so emotionally and financially drained from the divorce that they forget to complete the additional…

Julie Gentili

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PreMarital Agreement

January 30, 2024

Prenup for Your Second Marriage

You’ve fallen in love again! It's time to consider a prenup for your second marriage, or as we officially call them, premarital agreements.I love, love, love marriage! Although I am a divorce attorney, I hate divorce. I never want anyone…

Julie Gentili

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Divorce Mediation

January 11, 2024

How Does Mediation Work in Divorce?

Divorce is emotional and overwhelming. You may have been told that you should mediate your divorce. So, how does mediation work in divorce? Divorce mediation helps calm the emotions and guides parties to a fair resolution on assets, liabilities, support,…

Julie Gentili

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Divorce Mediation

November 15, 2023

How to Get a Divorce in Oregon: A Guide to the Best Options

There are five ways to get a divorce in Oregon. Each option has pros and cons. Keep reading to discover which way to get a divorce in Oregon is best for you. You can use forms from your local circuit…

Julie Gentili

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Children Divorce

November 14, 2023

Best way to help your children through your divorce

"What are the best ways to help my children through my divorce?" The best way to help your children through your divorce is to recognize that each child's age will affect how each child is impacted by your divorce. Each…

Julie Gentili

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Divorce

November 7, 2023

I’m Retired and Getting A Divorce: What Do I Need To Know

Relationships end all the time. It doesn’t matter if you’ve been together one year or fifty years – sometimes it’s time to say goodbye. If you're retired and getting a divorce, divorce mediation may be a good solution for you…

Julie Gentili

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PreMarital Agreement

November 1, 2023

Why You Need an Oregon PreMarital (aka Prenup) Agreement

So, in Oregon, a premarital agreement is a prenup and a prenup is a premarital agreement. For ease of writing, I will refer to it as a prenup. Marriage is the single biggest action you can take that legally changes…

Julie Gentili

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Children Divorce

October 25, 2023

Co-Parenting Hacks

I know a lot of co-parenting hacks because I’ve been a divorce mediator for over twenty years and I am also a co-parent. Keep reading for concrete steps help you navigate co-parenting like a rock star. Shared Calendar. In my…

Julie Gentili

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Children Divorce Mediation

October 20, 2023

How to tell your kids about your divorce

You are getting a divorce. And you need to know how to tell your kids about your divorce. Your kids are your heart and your soul. You would NEVER intentionally do anything to hurt them. So, telling them about your…

Julie Gentili

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Divorce Mediation

October 18, 2023

Flat Fees vs. Hourly for a Mediated Divorce

Divorce is expensive. There are two ways to pay for a divorce: a flat fee (or fixed fee) and hourly fees. So, which way is best? Let's explore the differences between flat fee vs. hourly fee divorce. At Mediation Northwest,…

Julie Gentili

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Divorce Mediation

October 11, 2023

The 5 Steps of Divorce Mediation

In every consultation I am asked, “What are the steps for a successful divorce mediation?” After you have selected your divorce mediator, you initially feel relief, which is immediately followed by a panicked thought: “Now what?” With over 24 years…

Julie Gentili

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Divorce

October 4, 2023

6 mistakes to avoid when dividing-up retirement in a divorce

Divorce is stressful and complicated (even in a friendly divorce). And, when retirement accounts are involved, if they are not properly handled, they can make an already-stressful process, unnecessarily more stressful. Let's talk about how to fairly divide retirement in…

Julie Gentili

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Divorce Mediation

September 27, 2023

Can you save a marriage after infidelity?

I’ve been an Oregon divorce attorney-mediator for more than 20 years, and I’ve seen just about every mistake people make in marriage. Infidelity is the biggest. You CAN save your marriage after infidelity – IF (capital IF) both people are…

Julie Gentili

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Divorce Mediation

April 12, 2023

Everything You Need to Know About Divorce and Divorce Mediation

Divorce sucks. Even if you are amicable, it still sucks. In a divorce, you need to consider what needs to be negotiated and then how to negotiate it. Let’s start with what needs to be negotiated.I have simplified the law…

Julie Gentili

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Divorce

October 25, 2022

Why am I getting a divorce?

I am routinely asked by the husbands in my divorce mediation practice, “Why am I getting a divorce?” They are genuine and truly have no idea why their wives are asking for a divorce. I then approach the wives and…

Julie Gentili

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Divorce Mediation

October 19, 2022

Give Yourself the Gift of One Year Before Dating Again

You finally pulled the trigger for a divorce, and you desperately long to feel loved again. I know because I’ve been there, too. And I can tell you… you need time to heal. The hard truth is that you can’t…

Julie Gentili

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Divorce

September 14, 2022

How to Create an Exit Strategy Before Pulling the Divorce Trigger

The divorce process can be long and stressful – but it doesn’t have to be. At Mediation Northwest our Oregon divorce mediator helps couples through divorce mediation in a way that allows both parties to get a fair deal. However,…

Julie Gentili

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Divorce Mediation

August 10, 2022

What do mediators do in an Oregon divorce?

Every marriage is different, and some of them don’t last forever. Although the end of a marriage is sad, it’s also true that many times… most times… there is no shame in it. If you’re contemplating a divorce in Oregon,…

Julie Gentili

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Divorce

July 6, 2022

Everything you Need to Know About Your LGBTQIA Divorce in Oregon

Divorce sucks… regardless of sexual preference or identity. It still sucks. For those going through an LGBTQIA divorce, there are a few additional factors that you need to consider – and these factors can differ depending on which state you…

Julie Gentili

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Divorce Mediation

April 27, 2022

Divorce Mediation in Oregon: Who is it for?

If you live in Oregon and are thinking about getting a divorce, divorce mediation is an option you should consider. No matter how long you have been married or your assets, mediation almost always produces better results. Here at Mediation…

Julie Gentili

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Divorce Mediation

March 23, 2022

How to get my partner to agree to divorce mediation

Divorce can be a difficult, expensive, and lengthy process, which is why divorce mediation is a good option for couples to avoid dragging things out. Not only is divorce mediation less likely to produce animosity, it is often much less…

Julie Gentili

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Divorce Mediation

February 9, 2022

Valuing your assets in divorce

Knowing your assets and your assets’ value in a divorce is easy… and difficult. You need to know what you own in your divorce mediation in Oregon. Just as important, though, you need to know what each asset’s value is…

Julie Gentili

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Divorce Mediation

January 26, 2022

Who pays the expenses during a divorce?

Who pays the expenses during a divorce? It depends. Everyone is different. There isn’t a hard and fast rule for the expenses you incur during the “not quite married, not quite divorced” time-period. Super helpful, right? At Mediation Northwest, we…

Julie Gentili

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Divorce Mediation

January 19, 2022

The most common mistakes in divorce mediation

After over 20 years of being an Oregon divorce mediator (who happens to be an attorney, too), I have seen plenty of mistakes. Knowing these mistakes ahead of time -- and how to avoid them -- is the best way…

Julie Gentili

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Divorce Mediation

November 13, 2021

How to Select a Divorce Mediator: A Checklist

You are getting a divorce. You’ve done the research and made the smart choice to use divorce mediation to untangle your marriage. But there are so many divorce mediators. How do you choose the right mediator? I founded Mediation Northwest…

Julie Gentili

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Divorce Mediation

October 20, 2021

Four Steps to Prepare for Divorce Mediation

Your divorce mediation appointment is scheduled. Now what? It’s time to prepare for your divorce mediation. The more prepared you are for your divorce mediation, the less time you will need to mediate, which saves you time, money, and time-off…

Julie Gentili

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Divorce Mediation

October 6, 2021

7 Divorce Mediation Mistakes

People are not always the best versions of themselves during the divorce process—and sometimes that includes during the divorce mediation process. At Mediation Northwest, I like to keep the process as simple and as pleasant as possible for both parties.…

Julie Gentili

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Divorce Mediation

August 20, 2021

Why Understanding the Other Side is Important in an Oregon Mediated Divorce

In my 20+ year career as a mediator, it’s rare that I see a conflict where both sides’ perspectives aren’t valid in whole or in part. We live in such a polarized society that we are taught that one side…

Julie Gentili

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Divorce

August 20, 2021

Can I leave the house during a divorce?

Can you leave the house during a divorce? The short answer can be broken down into 3 simple responses...If you want the house and you and your spouse are not amicable, stay in the house. If you want the house,…

Julie Gentili

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Divorce

August 2, 2021

The 8 reasons why people get a divorce

Every couple is different, which makes every divorce different. That’s one of the many reasons why it can be so helpful to go through divorce mediation. No one looks forward to a messy, drawn-out divorce, and our team at Mediation…

Julie Gentili

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Divorce

August 1, 2021

How to determine your debts in a divorce

There are several helpful steps to take before you should consider yourself ready for a divorce and divorce mediation. We discussed the first of these steps in our previous blog, “Pre-Divorce Checklist: Getting your own credit card.” Now, we turn…

Julie Gentili

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Divorce

July 21, 2021

Pre-Divorce Checklist

The divorce process can be long, drawn-out, and overly complicated. But it doesn’t have to be. At Mediation Northwest, we help Oregon couples through divorce mediation, allowing both parties to work with our experienced mediator to get a fair deal…

Julie Gentili

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Divorce Mediation

July 7, 2021

How Divorce Mediation works via Zoom in Oregon

At Mediation Northwest, we work with Oregon couples who want to get divorced the easy way. Divorce mediation allows both parties to work with our experienced mediator to get a fair deal for both parties. To make the divorce process…

Julie Gentili

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How to talk to your ex about co-parenting

Children

March 9, 2021

How to Talk to your Ex about Co-Parenting

Do you need some advice on how to talk to your ex about co-parenting matters? I am a divorce attorney and co-parent. I advise my clients everyday how to navigate the treacherous waters of co-parenting and I navigate those same…

Julie Gentili

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Children Divorce

September 30, 2020

What to do when your child is modeling your ex’s behavior

You endured your ex- spouse’s behavior while you were married, but you don’t have to anymore. The problem is that your child is modeling your ex’s behavior. You hate your ex, but you love your child. There is no way…

Julie Gentili

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Children Divorce

September 30, 2020

When your kids ask why you are getting a divorce

You are getting a divorce and your spouse was awful to you. One of my favorite lines is from a client, “my lying, cheating, lazy, alcoholic, financially unreliable, ignorant, sex-grinch of a wife/husband...” If any, or all, of these attributes…

Julie Gentili

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Children Divorce Mediation

September 29, 2020

Putting your kids first in divorce

Putting your kids first in your divorce, aka the child-centered divorce, is the unicorn in the world of divorce. Why is it a unicorn? Because it rarely happens. So many good parents get caught-up in trivial disagreements and their own…

Julie Gentili

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Children Divorce

July 6, 2020

How to tell your kids about divorce

It is important to tell your kids about your divorce in a planned way. Keep in mind that more children live in divorced/single homes than live in two parent homes. Your children will survive your divorce without scarring if both…

Julie Gentili

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Children Divorce Uncategorized

June 14, 2019

How to tell your children about the divorce

One of the most difficult times for parents during a divorce is telling the children. You’ve never done this before so it’s perfectly reasonable that you need some advice. How to tell your children is a result of two important…

Julie Gentili

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Children Divorce

June 14, 2019

How to help your kids through your divorce

Children can be the silent victims of the divorce. Most parents want to minimize any damage the divorce has on their children. Follow these steps to help your children through your divorce: Don’t put the children in the middle.…

Julie Gentili

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